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Have you ever noticed how some characters leap off the page while others feel like lifeless puppets, moved around just to serve the plot? The secret to writing compelling characters isnât just detailed descriptions or clever dialogueâitâs conflict. Writing strong character conflict is what makes characters feel real, drives tension, and keeps readers turning pages.

Why Strong Character Conflict Matters
Conflict is the lifeblood of storytelling. Without it, even the most interesting characters can feel flat. Readers donât just want to see what happens; they want to experience tension, stakes, and uncertainty. And the best way to create this effect? Give your characters clear, conflicting desires.
Letâs break this down with a quick example:
Version 1:
Sarah needs help moving apartments. Her friend John agrees to help. They spend the afternoon moving boxes.
Version 2:
Sarah needs to move out today or lose her security deposit. Her friend John promised to help, but now his kid is sick. He wants to keep his word without leaving his feverish five-year-old alone.
See the difference? The first version is just action. The second version introduces character conflictâSarah and John both want something, but their desires clash. This creates tension, making the scene far more engaging.
The Object of Desire Formula: Creating Instant Conflict
Every strong character needs an Object of Desireâsomething they want and are actively pursuing. But conflict emerges when that desire comes with a cost.
The Formula:
The character wants [A] without having to [B].
By giving your characters something they want (A) while forcing them to avoid an undesirable consequence (B), you create built-in tension.
Examples:
- A detective wants to solve the case without revealing their own dark secret.
- A teenager wants to win the championship without betraying their best friend.
- A business owner wants to save their company without taking money from their judgmental father.
This push-and-pull dynamic makes characters feel real because it mirrors the struggles we face in everyday life. Strong character conflict happens when pursuing a goal forces a character into difficult choices.
The S.M.A.R.T. System for Writing Strong Character Conflict
One common issue in character conflict is that the desires are too vague or weak. Applying the S.M.A.R.T. goal system to Objects of Desire makes them stronger:
Specific
The desire must be concrete enough that, by the end of the scene, it is clear whether the character got what they wanted or not.
Too Vague: “Wants to improve their family relationships” Specific: “Wants to get their estranged brother to attend their wedding”
Measurable
You need a clear way to know if your character succeeds or fails. There should be no ambiguity about the outcome.
Not Measurable: “Wants to become a successful writer” Measurable: “Wants their debut novel to sell 5,000 copies in the first month”
Achievable
The desire must be possible within the rules and scope of your story world. Even in fantasy, the goal should feel attainable to both character and reader.
Unachievable: “Wants to become President tomorrow” Achievable: “Wants to win the city council election next month”
Relevant
The desire must connect directly to your story’s themes and central conflict. It can’t be a random want that doesn’t impact the core story.
Irrelevant: “Wants to learn Spanish” (in a story about solving a murder) Relevant: “Wants to learn Spanish to interview the only witness” (in a story about solving a murder)
Time-Bound
There must be a ticking clock or deadline that creates urgency. Without time pressure, desires lose their dramatic impact.
No Time Pressure: “Wants to tell their mother the truth” Time-Bound: “Wants to tell their mother the truth before her surgery tomorrow morning”
Each element of SMART ensures your character’s Object of Desire will create the kind of tension that drives stories forward. When you’re crafting a character’s wants, run them through this checklist. If any element is missing, your desire might not be strong enough to carry your scene.
Creating Conflict Through Competing Desires
One of the best ways to write strong character conflict is by giving multiple characters competing Objects of Desire.
Two Ways Desires Create Conflict:
1. Different Goals Entirely
This happens when two characters want things that canât coexist.
Example: A custody battle:
- The mother wants to move across the country with their child.
- The father wants the child to stay in their current school district.
- The child wants their parents to get back together.
None of these desires can be fully satisfied, making for rich, organic conflict.
2. Same Goal, Different Methods
This occurs when characters share an ultimate goal but have opposing approaches.
Example: Three siblings want to save their family restaurant:
- The oldest wants to modernize and attract a younger crowd.
- The middle child insists on preserving their parentsâ traditional recipes.
- The youngest wants to sell to a developer and start fresh.
They all want to preserve their familyâs legacy, but their methods create tension and drama.
Conscious Wants vs. Unconscious Needs
The deepest stories go beyond external desires and tap into internal conflict. A characterâs conscious want is what drives the plot, but their unconscious need is what gives the story meaning.
Example: Finding Nemo
Marlinâs Conscious Want:
- To find and protect his son, Nemo.
Marlinâs Unconscious Need:
- To learn to let go and trust Nemo to face the world.
Every time Marlin pursues his conscious want (protecting Nemo), it forces him to confront his unconscious need (letting go). This contrast between want and need creates emotional depth and makes the character arc compelling.
Putting It All Together
Letâs apply everything to a quick character setup:
A father wants his daughter to take over the family business without admitting heâs dying.
The Core Conflict:
- The father wants to secure his legacy.
- The daughter wants to pursue her art and reject the family business.
- Both desires create a natural conflict.
The Deeper Needs:
- The father needs to trust his daughterâs path.
- The daughter needs to face her fear of responsibility.
Now, every scene between them is charged with meaning. When the father reviews business reports, heâs not just discussing numbersâheâs trying to hide his mortality. When the daughter shows him her latest artwork, sheâs not just sharing a passionâsheâs asking for permission to be herself.
This is how you write strong character conflictâby making every desire, action, and consequence meaningful.
Final Thoughts on Writing Strong Character Conflict
The key to writing strong character conflict is crafting characters who want things, but face obstacles and competing desires. Every moment should push them toward tough choices, revealing who they really are.
Ask yourself:
- What does my character want?
- What are they trying to avoid?
- Who or what stands in their way?
- How do their unconscious needs complicate their pursuit?
When you answer these questions, you wonât just create conflictâyouâll create characters readers will never forget.
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